“”Stone is heavy, and sand is weighty, but a complaining fool is worse than either” (Proverbs 27:3). There’s definitely a place for bearing each other’s burdens; for talking over problems and getting things off our chests, but if we constantly complain, we’re not only a burden on the shoulders of those around us, we’re bad for ourselves too.
“A quarrelling wife is as bothersome as a continual dripping on a rainy day” (Proverbs 27:15), and if you’ve ever woken up in the middle of the night to a leaking roof and raindrops coming in, you’ll know how bothersome that is! All you want is an end to the problem. If you’re the quarreller, perhaps all you can see is the problem and you want an end to it too.
I don’t claim to have the answer in your situation, but there is a verse at the end of this chapter that might help. “There will be plenty of goat’s milk to feed you and your family and to make your servant girls healthy” (Proverbs 27:27). In other words, God’s plan is for us to have plenty to meet our needs – not our wants, but our needs. Whether it’s a quarrel with your spouse you’re in the middle of, or another problem – big or small, why don’t you step back from it for a few minutes? Try to think of ways God has met your needs – the clothes you’re wearing, the food on the table, etc. We can overflow with thankfulness when we know that with God, we may not have everything we want, but we have enough.
Just because I’m writing this, please don’t think I have it all together. There are days I get really fed up with the doors that seem to slam in my face. At those times, hearing other people’s unanswered prayers can discourage me and prayer can even seem pointless, but when I stop to think about it, when I think how God’s answered some of my prayers – how He’s brought someone along just when I’ve needed help, or got my mum through the chemotherapy, I know it’s not pointless after all.