If you were to ask me what I find most difficult to overlook, this would be it: When a friend has lied to me. I think I find it so difficult because a friend is someone I’ve made the choice to trust. We confide in one another, and I value what they say. When trust is broken, that’s turned on its head. They’ve deceived me. Their action shows they don’t value my friendship, and they don’t want me as a confidante.

Jesus is no deceiver. He says: “I am the Way and the Truth and the Life.” He’ll never lie to us. He’ll never break our trust, and as we saw earlier this month, He says to His followers: “Love each other as I have loved you.” This gives us a responsibility as Christians to be totally trustworthy. It’s not for us to keep up a pretence. If we’ve agreed to something, we should stand by that, or have the courage to be honest if we’re failing.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).


Lies or Truth?

“A witness who lies will not go free” (Proverbs 19:5, 9).  It’s rare for a phrase to be repeated like that, but there seems a lot in this chapter about lying.


“It is better to be poor and honest than to be foolish and tell lies” (Proverbs 19:1), “so it is better to be poor than to be a liar” (Proverbs 19:22).


In an earlier chapter, we’re told dishonest words crush the spirit.  I don’t know if lying has got you into trouble:  Maybe it’s to get attention, or to get something you want … but though the reasons might be very complex, please remember the people it affects, and remember their deep sadness/their crushed spirits.  Maybe they long for you to trust them with the truth.