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Chapter 1 is about how, through an incident in Lysa’s home, God brought to light her bad attitude to the people around her. She looked at herself, and she knew she needed to change; she could see the consequences of not changing. “God help me,” she says, “if I don’t get a handle on this.”
I found I could relate to Lysa in this chapter – firstly, that the bad reaction seemed to have been triggered by something so small. I’ve reacted badly before, and later I’ve thought: Why did I get annoyed so easily? But there was a reason. In Lysa’s case, it was that the same thing had happened over and over again, and this time was the last straw. For me when I’ve reacted badly, there have been things in the past I’ve held onto, long after I should have let them go – feelings of jealousy or insecurity; things I thought I was over, until I flew off the handle and discovered otherwise.
When we’re faced with flaws in our characters, I think it’s good to examine ourselves and get to the root of them, but that brings me to the second way I can relate: Regret. I haven’t done any research on this, but I would think regret is much greater in Christians than in people who don’t believe. We’re told in the Bible that we’re Christ’s ambassadors (2 Corinthians 5:20). That’s a very high calling, and it hurts my heart deeply to know someone just saw me at my worst when they should have seen Jesus in me, but God’s more interested in our futures than in our past failures. How can any good come out of a situation if we stop at regret?
The third and final thing I relate to is her attitude to change. Lysa would put off change because of the fear of not doing it perfectly; but, as she says, we need to draw lines again and again. It’s just a case of making sure those lines are moving forwards, not backwards. That helps me so much too – to think of where I’ve come from. When I think of me 8 years ago, then 3 years ago, and then I think of myself now, I can see an improvement. You might say: “But people didn’t know me 3 years ago” – well, maybe not … but God did. When you love someone, you always see the best in them, don’t you? So, as God loves you more than any human being ever could, why wouldn’t God see the best in you?
Are you afraid to make a change? Why, or why not? Are you still struggling to get past the regret?
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